Facing Grief and Loss.
Grief doesn’t follow a neat timeline. It doesn’t look like the movies. And no, you’re not “doing it wrong” if you’re still not okay after a certain number of weeks or months.
Every story is different.
Here are a few things you might find helpful:
You might feel numb. Or you might cry every day. Both are valid.
Grief shows up in ways we don’t always expect. Some people feel intense sadness. Others feel disconnected or irritable. Some feel nothing at all. None of it means you didn’t love enough — or too much. It just means your nervous system is doing its best to cope.
Try this: ask yourself: What do I need right now — comfort, distraction, quiet, or connection? Let that guide your next step.
Small routines can help when the big picture feels too heavy.
When everything feels like too much, focus on the next small thing. Make a cup of tea. Take a shower. Text a friend. These don’t solve the pain, but they remind you that you’re still here, coping — even if it doesn’t quite feel like it.
You don’t have to talk about it all the time, but you also don’t have to hold it alone.
Not everyone knows what to say. That’s frustrating. But there are people who can sit with your grief without trying to fix it. That might be a therapist, a support group, or a friend who’s also walked through loss. It’s okay to say, “I don’t need advice — I just want to talk.”
There’s no “moving on,” only moving forward.
The goal isn’t to forget. It’s to remember with less pain. Some days will feel lighter. Others will hit you out of nowhere. Anniversaries, smells, songs — they can all bring it back. That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human.
If you’re grieving right now, you don’t have to rush your healing. You’re allowed to take your time. You’re allowed to fall apart and rebuild slowly.
And if it ever feels too heavy to carry alone, therapy can help. Not by giving you magic answers — but by giving you space, support, and someone who won’t rush your process.
You’re not alone. Even if it feels that way sometimes.